âChris, my exes birthday is tomorrow. Am I allowed to break the no contact rule to wish him one?â
Now, the important part to grasp right away is that wishing your ex a happy birthday isn't so much the issue here.
The No Contact Rule = A Period of time where you don't talk to your ex on purpose.
Now, the no contact rule is kind of a big deal here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery because it is essentially the foundation upon which every âex recoveryâ campaign is built.
It doesn't matter if you want to get him back or simply get over him, the no contact rule is going to be present.
Lets talk numbers for a second.
Did you know that in my own independent research looking at all the success stories here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery over 70% of women who have gotten their ex back have utilized a no contact rule in some way shape or form.
That is insane.
But lets take it a step further.
Did you know that every single woman who has gotten her ex back in our Private Support Group has utilized no contact.
(That's 100% if you can't count đ .)
But what does any of this have to do with wishing your ex a happy birthday?
The No Contact Rule And Happy Birthdays
I have made my case for why the no contact rule is essential for getting an ex back (if that is what you want.)
But do you want to know what destroys a no contact rule faster than anything.
Breaking it and then having to start over again from scratch.
Not a lot of people know this because they mostly take my advice at face value and just assume that things will remain the same throughout but the no contact rule can actually lose effectiveness every time you start it and then stop it.
Think of it like seeing a movie for the first time.
The experience of watching a movie for the first time is going to be the best. It's going to lose a bit of it's punch the next time you watch it and then the next time and so on and so forth.
Well, the same type of logic is going to apply with the no contact rule.
The most effective that it is ever going to be on your ex is when you try it on them for the very first time.
But lets say that you break it for some inexplicable reason and decide to start over again.
While the no contact rule can still be effective it won't be as effective as the very first time you tried it.
Get it?
So, where do happy birthdays come into play here.
However, I still haven't gone into one of the major problems that we have here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery with the no contact rule.
The Major Problem We Have With The No Contact Rule
The problems lies in the fact that the vast majority of the people who try it simply cannot stay in it.
They break it.
And after you look at the science of it, it makes a lot of sense.
Not a lot of people know this but after you go through a breakup the part of the brain that lights up and becomes active is the exact same part of the brain that lights up and becomes active in a drug addict.
If you have ever wondered why people going through heartbreak exhibit many of the classic signs of âwithdrawalâ well, that's why!
Now, the no contact rule takes someone in that state of mind and forces them to create a new habit where they aren't engaging in their addiction, their ex.
Rather, they are flat out ignoring them.
Of course, this also explains why so many men and women have trouble with it.
How many drug addicts are able to quit cold turkey?
The Answer = Not A Lot
I have found that most of the clients I work with who actually try implementing the no contact rule will fight every step of the way to look for an excuse to break it.
Do you see where I am going with this?
And that is where birthdays come into play.
What Happens When You Break The No Contact Rule To Wish Your Ex A Happy Birthday
I find it's often helpful to do this fun exercise so you can make the most of your interactions with your ex and believe me that really matters because in the grand scheme of things you only have a small amount of chances to really rebuild attraction.
So, lets do this fun exercise with a happy birthday text.
Here is the scenario.
You have been in the midst of a no contact period for 12 days and it just so happens that your exes birthday is on day 13. You debate back and forth on whether you should wish them a happy birthday and ultimately decide on the fact that you should do it.
So, day 13 rolls around and you send the fairly basic âhappy birthday textâ looking something like this,
Now, the way I see it is that there are three ways that your ex can respond to this.
The Basic Response
ThanksâŚ
This is the most basic response you will get (and probably the most likely outcome.)
People are hardwired to say âthanks, âthank youâ or some variation to being told happy birthday and therein lies the problem. Why would you subject yourself to lessening your position for a âthanks.â
This is the best outcome you can hope for and that in and of itself is depressing.
The Negative Response
If you get this response then it is pretty clear that you shouldn't have broken the no contact rule.
Why?
Because if your ex is literally sitting there and asking you,
âHey, why are we talking?â
It clearly means that they are still holding some serious resentment towards you.
So, essentially what you will have done here is ended a no contact rule which has an added benefit of calming them down to have your ex tell you to f*ck off basically.
The No Response
For some reason I feel like I would fall into this category personally.
Some breakups cause people to use their own silence against you.
So, by wishing your ex a happy birthday and having them not respond to you it is their subtle way of letting you know,
âHey, I saw your text but you are so beneath me I am not going to even give you the most basic response.
Ok, here is the point I am trying to drive home for you.
In fact, all it will end up doing is worsening it.
Nevertheless, I feel it would be short sighted of me to not take a look at the other argument.
The Final Conclusion: Should You Wish Your Ex A Happy Birthday
Here is a sad truth.
The âget your ex backâ niche is full of shady characters.
They won't give away any of their âtricksâ for free (not that their tricks are anything revolutionary) and I feel like half of them are just scam artists.
Nevertheless, that doesn't mean I haven't made a few friends over the years.
On the contrary, I would say that probably one of the best friends I have made in this space is a fellow by the name of Brad Browning. Now, Brad is really interesting in the fact that he is one of the very few âbreakup coachesâ willing to put his face on camera which you will find is extremely rare in this day and age.
Anyways, a few months ago Brad came to me with this really interesting idea.
Hey man, how would you like to do a Brad Vs. Chris video where we take questions from our audience and give our perspective?
Needless to say, I was in!
So, we filmed this beauty together,
Now, what a lot of people don't know about this is that we didn't know how the other was going to answer the questions that were chosen at random and we found that we disagreed on one thing in particular.
Happy Birthdays!
No seriously, scroll to 16 minutes and 07 seconds into the video and you can hear me making my argument for the fact that you shouldn't break no contact to wish an ex a happy birthday and you can hear Brad making his that you should.
Honestly, I think it is the most comprehensive talk that has maybe ever been done on the subject.
So, who is right?
Well, I amâŚ.
No, ultimately who is right is up to you (but I'm right đ .)
Let me just end by reiterating what I was saying in the video versus Brad.
I think it is a huge mistake to break the no contact rule to wish your ex a happy birthday.
Of all the things that you can say to your ex to get them to want you back âhappy birthdayâ isn't going to be it.
Instead, all breaking the no contact rule to wish your ex a happy birthday will accomplish is ruining any progress you have already made.
You will essentially be giving into your addiction of talking to your ex and lower the no contact rule's effectiveness.
Just sayin!
Emotional Birthday Wishes for Ex Best Friend
Happy birthday to the person for the person who meant very special to me and who was always a huge supporter of me, thank you so much for making my life awesome, I miss you.
Friendship is the most beautiful relation and you have proved this many times. Thank you, dear friend, for taking the friendship in a new stage, I am sending all the love and good wishes to you on your birthday.
Happy birthday to you. May Allah bless you and add lots of joy and happiness today.
On your birthday, I pray for your success and a better life. I hope you will never look back and keep walking through success, happy birthday, dear friend.
May wealth, good health, success, and fortune be with you always, I am sending tons of love and good wishes to my dear friend on his birthday.
You are as awesome as a person. May the candle of your birthday brings much brightness to your life that leads you to success and fortune, Happy Birthday, dear friend.
Year by year, you are getting awesome. I am praying for your success and may God accept all of your goodwill, Happy Birthday to my best friend ever.
I wish all the goodness come to your life that I wish for me, you are the best human I ever know in the world, Happy Birthday to you, dear friend.
I always think that âOld is goldâ. You are my old friends and I appreciate your presence in my life. You are a wonderful person who has made many difference, Happy Birthday to you.
Happy Birthday to the most handsome boy in the world. I know you are going to have so much fun on your birthday, I am sending all the love and good wishes to you.
Dear friend, I am sending so many blessings on your 19th birthday, that will lead you to success and good fortune in your life, Happy Birthday to you.
You are 20 now, itâs a huge milestone dear friend. I am so happy that I have a friend like you, Happy Birthday to you.
Your friendship is very valuable and meaningful to me, Happy Birthday to you.
With your good behavior and acts, you have taken our friendship to a new level. I really appreciate that you accepted me as your friend, Happy Birthday to you.
I always wish the best for you. I hope this birthday will come with lots of success and luck for you, Happy Birthday to you.
Touching Birthday Messages for Ex Best Friend
It is strange that so many years have passed and we have not met yet even for a single time. Time changes many things. But I always hope you are doing good. Today is your birthday and I am happy to be a part of the celebration, Happy Birthday to the most important person from the school.
In school, we have to spend an amazing time. I always remember those days and start being so emotional. I feel like I have lost the golden time of my life. We were the best pair at that time. I miss those days and miss you too, Happy Birthday to you, dear friend.
I wish my dear friend a happy birthday, you deserve a successful career ahead. I know how hardworking you are. God bless you.
I am sending lots of love and blessings on your birthday, Happy Birthday to you.
I think you deserve all the happiness in the world. I can remember, whenever I needed you, you were there by my side. You were the biggest supporter of me, Happy Birthday to you, dear friend.
You know what? You are the oldest friend from childhood. Whenever I look back, I find tons of beautiful memories with you, Happy Birthday to you.
I know you very well from the day I met you. You are a genuine person, I wish for your success and happiness in life, Happy Birthday to you.
Deep Birthday Messages for Ex Best Friend
It is a very special day for me because today is my friendâs birthday. I am sending all the good wishes and blessings from my side. I am sure you will find happiness and success in your life, Happy Birthday to you.
You and I have spent a long time together in the same school and then at the same college. We have made lots of beautiful memories together and that was a golden time. I miss you a lot and miss those times, today is yu birthday, Happy Birthday to you, dear friend. I am sending all the good wishes and love to you.
Dear friend, Happy Birthday to you. Today is your day, do anything that you want to do, wish for anything that you want to have.
May your days be long and filled with joy and peace. God bless you, dear. Love you plenty no be today, Happy Birthday to you.
May God brings tons of peace and success in your life, Happy Birthday to you.
May you find happiness and success in your life, thatâs my wish for you on this special day, Happy Birthday to you.
Words are not enough to describe my feelings for you on this special day. Best wishes to you and your family, Happy Birthday to you.
Meaningful Birthday Wishes for Ex Best Friend
On your special day, I am sending lots of beautiful wishes that will add much many happiness and joy to your life, Happy Birthday to you.
Happy Birthday to the best guy in the school, I know you were awesome. We have shared many beautiful moments and had lots of fun, Happy Birthday to you, dear friend.
I always want you to reach the highest peak of success, Happy Birthday to you.
It is such a wonderful feeling to know that you are doing amazing, I wish for your more success in future, Happy Birthday to you, dear friend.
Itâs an ordinary day for the rest of the world, but itâs very special to me because today is my dear friendâs birthday, Happy Birthday to you dear friend.
Happy Birthday to you, dear friend. Our friendship means a lot and itâs not possible to describe in a line, enjoy your special day.
This is a very special day that you should enjoy with your family, Happy Birthday to you.
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Just because the two of you are no longer together doesnât always mean you should be enemies. The birthday of your ex is a perfect opportunity to let them know that despite the fact that the romantic relationship turned sour and you have gone your separate ways, you still think about them and care. You can even use their birthday as an opportunity to make peace with them and try to reignite the relationship once again, provided that they are still not seeing anyone.
Below are some really cool birthday wishes that you can send to your ex boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife as he or she marks another chapter in their life.
⢠Birthday Wishes for my Ex Boyfriend
⢠Birthday Wishes for my Ex Girlfriend
⢠Birthday Greetings for my Ex Husband
⢠Birthday Messages for my Ex Wife
Birthday Wishes for my Ex Boyfriend
⢠The fact that we are no more together will never take away the fact that you will always be special to my heart. Happy birthday.
⢠Wishing the most loving guy Iâve ever known a blissful birthday celebration. I canât deny the fact that my heart misses you badly. How I wish we never went our separate ways.
⢠I hope we can put all the bitterness away and remember the reasons we loved each other. Happy birthday.
⢠I tried to make you happy, but I guess my efforts werenât enough. I hope you find someone who gives you the happiness you are looking for. But meanwhile, do have a happy birthday.
⢠Happy birthday, dear. Youâll always occupy a special place in my heart even though we are currently living separate lives.
⢠Today is your Big Day. I hope you celebrate it to the max. Please free yourself from the guilt of breaking my heart because I have forgiven you. Have a wonderful day.
⢠I may not have turned out to be the love of your life but I wish you find your Sleeping Beauty soon, and when you do find her, I hope that she treats you with all the love and respect that you deserve. Happy birthday.
⢠Best wishes to a phenomenal person on his birthday. How I wish I could undo all the hurt I caused you. I hope that one of these days you find a place in your heart to forgive me for all that Iâve done because I am truly sorry.
⢠You still mean so much to me even though you left me heartbroken. I wish you find happiness in whoever you have found to call your own. Happy birthday, dear.
⢠Thank you for still being my best friend despite all the hurt I have caused your heart. All I wish for in life is to have another chance to right all my wrongs. Wishing you a happy birthday with loads of love.
Birthday Wishes for my Ex Girlfriend
⢠Itâs a shame I couldnât be the one for you. On your birthday, I pray that you will find someone who would love and cherish you all the days of your life. Have a beautiful day.
⢠As you blow the candles on your cake, my heart wants you to know something. It wants you to know that it misses you like crazy. Happy birthday.
⢠I try to completely erase you from my memory, but no matter how much I try, I just canât seem to do that. Could this be because this heart of mine beats only for you? Happy birthday.
⢠Babe, you have no idea the things I would do just to get one more chance to be with you and hold you in my arms again. Happy birthday.
⢠What has happened has happened. There is no need to hate and despise each other for our failed love. I still care about you and will never stop loving you. As you turn a new age today, I wish you a life filled to the brim with beauty and happiness. Happy birthday.
⢠My heart has survived the demise of our relationship but I donât think it can survive the end of our friendship. Happy birthday.
⢠I can accept the fact that I am no longer your Prince Charming, but what my heart canât stand is to no longer be your friend. Happy birthday.
⢠I would like to move on in life, but I canât because Iâm still in love with you. Please take me back, and letâs live happily together once again. Happy birthday.
Birthday Greetings for my Ex Husband
⢠Happy birthday, my dear. If we loved again, I promise Iâd never let you down. I miss you so much and wish you could give me one more chance to make things right.
⢠You might have moved on, but do know that this heart of mine still loves and misses you. I will never stop caring for you, my dear. Happy birthday.
⢠I wish I was enveloped in your arms right now, but I guess those arms now belong to someone else. I hope she brings you the happiness that you have been chasing after. Happy birthday.
⢠Happy birthday, dear. Celebrate today knowing that I pray for you all the time and I miss you so much. I hope all the things you dream of materialize.
⢠Your birthday will always be a special day for me because you are special to me. The truth is I have never loved and cared for any one as much as I have loved and cared for you. Youâre such a wonderful man, and it is such a shame we couldnât make it work. Happy birthday to my ex husband.
⢠You tore me apart and broke my heart, but I forgive you and wish you well in life because I still care about you. Happy birthday.
⢠What wouldnât I do to have you in my life once again? I will walk across the hottest desert, swim across the largest ocean, and climb the highest mountain on earth just to get the chance to be with you again. Happy birthday, my love.
Birthday Messages for my Ex Wife
⢠My intentions were to love you always and forever. Even though we are not together anymore, my intentions still remain the same. Happy birthday.
⢠If I could get one more opportunity to be in your life, I would do things differently. I would tell you and I would show you how much you mean to me every blessed day. I miss you so much. Happy birthday.
⢠Wishing a happy birthday to the woman, who once made me feel like the luckiest man in the world. Hope you have a beautiful day.
⢠I miss our sweet conversations. I miss your sweet kisses. I miss you so terribly it is killing me. Happy birthday.
⢠The truth is, I love you and I always will. You might not be mine anymore but the truth remains the same. Happy birthday.
⢠I reserved a special place in my heart for you from the very first day I met you. We might not be together today, but that space can never be filled by anyone else because you still occupy it. Happy birthday.
⢠I promised to love you forever, and even now that we are no longer together, I donât intend breaking that promise. Happy birthday.
⢠You were my endless love, my pillar of support and my best friend. We might not be each husband and wife anymore but please letâs not allow anything destroy our beautiful friendship. Happy birthday.
⢠We might be living separate lives, but I will continue to always be there for you through thick and thin because you are such a wonderful woman. Happy birthday.