Full disclosure: I have a great relationship with my in-laws, so what I've written below is based on the bad experiences of others and some information I scraped together from an excellent article on in-laws.
With in-laws, you need to acknowledge a certain fact, no matter how generous you are with your judgement of people: You don’t pick your in-laws — circumstance does. This fact has ramifications, namely that your in-laws can be as sweet as honey or as sour as lemons (I politely refer to the "lemon" variety as "outlaws"). Chances are you have a mix of sweet and sour in-laws.
So when it comes to birthday wishes, it's very tempting to tell you to tread softly and take the safe route, sticking to the typical "happy birthday" message. Why? You often can’t go wrong with it ("often" because, sometimes, you just can’t please your in-laws). Of course, I said I was "tempted" to suggest this path. I never suggested that you should actually take this route. In fact, I'm more tempted to recommend another direction altogether.
Then, what route should you take? Put simply: you should choose your birthday message as if you were selecting birthday greetings for your own family. According to an article I just read (called "25 Great Tips for Building a Relationship with Your In-Laws"), "boundaries, respect, acceptance, willingness and love can make a big difference to your in-law relationships." That's also good advice when it comes to picking in-law birthday wishes.
How so? Below, take a look at some of the recommendations that come from the article (not all 25, mind you) and my tips for choosing the best in-law birthday wishes based on these suggestions:
• Common courtesy still applies: If you absolutely detest your in-law, you should still choose a nice (yet generic) "happy" birthday wish as a courtesy.
• Extend grace to your in-laws: Be graceful with your birthday greetings, even if you harbor ill feelings. Once again, choose a "happy" message.
• Treat your in-laws like family: With your own mother, you would probably choose a birthday message that reflects her personality. Don't do anything differently with your in-laws. If your son-in-law, for example, is the sentimental type, pick a son-in-law birthday wish that's sentimental. If he's an inspirational kind of guy, take the "inspirational" path with his birthday greetings.
• Be true to yourself: Choose a birthday verse that expresses your thoughts about your in-law (keeping in mind the three suggestions above, so no bad thoughts).
• Focus on the positive: If your mother-in-law, for instance, is a generous person (but is nasty in every other way), highlight this positive strength in her birthday wish.
• Don't pigeonhole your in-laws: Get over your first impressions of your in-laws and try to get to know them better, so you can pick birthday wishes that focus on aspects of their personality you respect or even like. (which makes following the advice right above so much easier).
• Swallow your pride and let go of your grudges: If you can follow this lovely piece of advice, you will be able to act upon Recommendation #4.
• Become their friend: Being friends with your in-laws will allow you to pick friend-type birthday messages, always a nice way to go.
• Find a respectful way to express yourself: Basically, showing some respect to your in-laws will enable you to benefit from Recommendation #1 or #2.
One more thing: don't worry about choosing the right message. Because every type of in-law birthday wish I mentioned above can be found in this section, you'll find the one that suits you and your in-law in no time.
A little confused by all this advice? Don't be. Ultimately, you just need to pick in-law birthday wishes that make the birthday boy or girl feel special and make you feel good expressing them.
Each person was blessed with a mother and a father in live as parents. However, having a special relationship with your mother-in- law can grant you the additional blessing of two mothers. To celebrate your mother- in-law’s birthday and special relationship your marriage has brought together, you should send her heartfelt birthday wishes for mother-in-law to make her surprised and happy. In our page you can find several heartfelt birthday wishes for mother-in-law to send her on her birthday.
• Life has given me many reasons to be happy, thankful and grateful – one of them is you. Happy birthday mom.
• Whether it’s my home, kids or career – for supporting me, I know you’ll always be here. Happy birthday.
• My friends miss me when they go out shopping, because I’ve found my new best friend in you. Happy birthday.
• A ruby necklace, diamond earrings, gold bracelet… I just couldn’t find a gift as precious as you. Happy birthday mom.
• Mothers-in-law are usually painted in bad light. But you are the light that has shown our family the right way. Happy birthday.
• Happy birthday to the queen bee, without whom we’d be an incomplete family. Happy birthday.
• If you are so extraordinary as a mother-in-law, I can’t even imagine how amazing you would be as a mother. Happy birthday mom.
• You’re not my mom-in-law, you’re the mom-who-I-am-in-love-with. Happy birthday.
• Technically we may be in-laws but for all other practical purposes, we are BFFs. Happy birthday.
• I don’t know what I did to deserve an awesome mother-in-law like you, just like how you don’t know what you did to deserve an amazing daughter-in-law like me. Happy birthday.
• We may be in-laws, but a great chemistry we share. Just like a mother and daughter, we make an awesome pair. Happy birthday.
• My marriage is a match made in heaven because I got the perfect husband and awesome in-laws. Happy birthday.
• My mother-in-law you may be, but a friend in you I’ll always see. Happy birthday.
• You gave me the most amazing gift in the form of your daughter. Allow me to return the favor by becoming your loving son. Happy birthday.
• When the foundation of our family is a mother-in-law like you, no force in the world can shake us. Happy birthday.
• Bad vibes, malicious jibes, nasty arguments and tense moments – our relationship is way too precious for these petty things. Happy birthday.
• I am glad that I never understood the real meaning of mother-in-law because I always had a mother, friend, companion and agony aunt all rolled into one in my mother-in-law. Happy birthday.
• I am not celebrating your birthday because you are getting old. I am celebrating your birthday because I have had the chance to spend yet another year with a wonderful parent-in-law like you. Happy birthday to my dearest mom-in-law.
• An amazing husband to support me and a lovely mother-in-law to understand me – my marriage made both my wishes come true. Happy birthday.
• You’re my new best friend after marriage. Happy birthday.
• Your daughter is not the only person who loves you the most in the world. I am competing with her. Happy birthday.
• Raising kids would have been a disaster if I didn’t have a mom-in-law like you to save me from making blunders. Happy birthday.
• Rearing a child, managing a family, achieving professional success and being a wonderful person – you’re my role model for everything. Happy birthday.
• An amazing husband like mine can only be the son of a fantastic mother like you. Happy birthday.
We hope that these heartfelt birthday wishes for mother-in-law can be helpful for you. She will be very happy and touched when she receives these birthday wishes for mother-in-law from you. Thanks for visiting our page and have a nice day!
To My Mother-in-law
Because I feel that, in the Heavens above,
The angels, whispering to one another,
Can find, among their burning terms of love,
None so devotional as that of "Mother,"
Therefore by that dear name, I long have called you –
You who are more than mother unto me,
And fill my heart of hearts, where Death installed you,
In setting my Virginia’s spirit free.
My mother – my own mother, who died early,
Was but the mother of myself; but you
Are mother to the one I loved so dearly,
And thus are dearer than the mother I knew
by that infinity with which my wife
Was dearer to my soul than its soul-life.
– Edgar Allan Poe
A Second Mom
You are a second mother, you know
At times I get busy and may not show
How much I care for all you do
You are special; that’s so true.
I feel so blessed to have you around
A strong bond with you I have found
So on this day, I send my love
And count you as a blessing from above.
– Catherine Pulsifer
Loving Mother-in-law
No woman apart from me
Knows the meaning
Of a mother-in-law
Whose love is undying
No one except me
Understands what it means
To be loved by a mother-in-law
It’s always more than what it seems
A safe and valid conclusion
No one except me can draw
That you are the world’s best
Mother-in-law
– Unknown
Mother-in-law Poems From Daughter-in-law
Being a daughter-in-law is a difficult task. But if you have a sweet mother-in-law guiding you, then there is nothing impossible. So tell your mother-in-law what you think about her through poems.
For My Mother-in-law
You are the mother I received the day I wed your son.
And I just want to thank you, Mom, for the things that you have done.
You have given me a gracious man with whom I share my life.
You are his lovely mother, and I am his lucky wife.
You used to pat his little head, and now I hold his hand.
You raised a little boy, then gave me a man.
– Wendy Johnson
I Learned From You
I learned about love from you,
Watching your caring ways.
I learned about joy from you.
In fun-filled yesterdays.
From you, I learned forgiving.
Of faults, both big and small.
I learned what I know about living
From you, as you gave life your all.
The example you set is still with me
I’d never want any other.
I’m thankful for all that you taught me,
And I’m blessed to call you "Mother."
– Joanna Fuchs
My Mom AndMine Is
My mom and mine is
My husband’s mom is mine too
There is a special bond without any clue
Don’t know when I came so close to you
Don’t know how it all started and true
Today I have in you my best friend
The purity from my heart and no present
Coz no one is as wonderful as you are
Whether you stay near or you stay far
You will always remain in my heart
My most amazing mom-in-law!
God bless you!
– Unknown
You Have A Very Special Place
You have a very special place in my heart
No words can describe the respect I have for you
You have always been there to help me
In all my troubles and through
I was scared when I was married to your son
But over the years that I have known you
I have respected you more
Its all about the loving grace in your eyes
And your wish being so wise
I love you, you are a mom to me
With you there is all glee
Stay blessed!
– Unknown
You Are Not Just My Mother-in-law
You are not just my mother-in-law.
You are special to me.
You are not just my husband’s mom
I love you dearly
My relationship with you
Is not a formality that I share
Today I want you to know
For you, I really care.
– Unknown
Mother-in-law
Mother-in-law," they say, and yet.
Somehow I simply can’t forget
"Twas you who watched his baby ways,
Who taught him his first hymn of praise,
Who smiled on him with loving pride,
When he first toddled by your side.
"Mother-in-law," but oh, ’twas you
Who taught him to be kind and true;
When he was tired, almost asleep,
‘Twas to your arms he used to creep.
And when he bruised his tiny knee,
‘Twas you who kissed it tenderly.
"Mother’-in-law," they say, and yet
Somehow I never shall forget
How much I owe
To you, who taught him how to grow.
You trained your son to look above,
You made him the man I love.
And so I think of that today
When with thankful heart I’ll say,
"Our Mother."
– Unknown
Mother-in-law Poems From Son-in-Law
Through some poems here, a son-in-law tells how much he appreciates his mother-in-law for raising her daughter well and how grateful he is for that.
Dear Mother-in-Law
To the mother of my wife
I have some things to say
So many things to thank you for
Lord, help me find a way
I see your love in my wife’s eyes
The way you held her close
Of all the people in your life
She knows you loved her most!
Your love spills out with every breath
With every sigh and laugh
When she tells of you and dad
in some hilarious gaff
And when she looks at me.
With soft and tender eyes
I know it’s ’cause her heart was filled.
With love from someone wise
From her youth, she heard the words
That strengthened her young soul
And now those words pour forth from her
Like water from a bowl
She builds the words, thoughts, and deeds
She learned from you, her Mom
Into her own blessed children
like a precious healing balm
She weaves a strong yet tender wall
Of Love around us all
So all her children are kept safe
From every slip and fall
Every day I see your love
In what she says and does
And I say a prayer to God each day
For your heart, your prayers, and your loves
– Michael Weber
Thank You
Thanks for giving me
Your beautiful princess
Who has brought in my life
So much happiness
Thanks for bestowing on me
This lovely gift of life
By allowing your daughter
To become my wife
Happy birthday
– Unknown
Your Blessings
Your blessings on the first day
When I entered your beautiful family
Have helped me make an eternal bond
Where I stand so good and tall
Today I gel with you so well
I think your magical wisdom spell
That has made me so connected to you
My super mom in law
Know for sure that I simply love you!
And you are simply the best in life!
– Unknown
Poems For Mother-in-law’s Birthday
On her special day, express your love and affection to your mother-in-law through some memorable and heart-touching poems that they will truly cherish lifelong.
I never thought that we would
I never thought that we would bond so well
Many unspoken things that I tell
You have become my friend more than mom
The bond that is just getting strong
I am so lucky to have you in my life
You have become the strength to strive
Good to have known you mom in law
You are just perfect without a flaw
I love you very much
Wishing you a very happy birthday!
– Unknown
A Happy Birthday
Birthday wishes are sent to you.
Wishing you happiness all year through
A birthday is a time to celebrate
You are the best; there is no debate!
Although a mother-in-law, you may be
You are special in our lives you see
I thank God for you each day
I love you, I just want to say!
– Kate Summers
Treasure
You gave me your daughter
I am grateful to you
for giving me a treasure like she.
Your birthday is today, I said before
I am grateful to you for the time that you give.
Today is your birthday
You’re the best mother-in-law
And I am proud to say I’m your son-in-law
Happy birthday
– Unknown
Special Day
No cake could help you make this day,
No words I could say would help me say how I feel towards you right now.
But today is your birthday; it’s all about you.
I love you so much, dear mother-in-law
I blow up balloons to make it all fun.
Hope you enjoy your day and have a blessed one.
– Unknown
Mother’s Day Poems For Mother-In-Laws
Mother-in-law is like a mother for us. She is loving, caring, protective, and guiding light. So, on the occasion of Mother’s day, convey your gratitude to one of the strongest pillars of your life.
Mother-In-Law But Mother In Heart
I don’t consider you just a mother-in-law,
You are mother in my heart,
All the love, all the life, all the laugh,
I have received from you is unparallel
It’s an out of the world feeling,
How a mother, who is not actually a mother,
Becomes actually a mother!!
I love you, Mom!!
– Unknown
A Happy Mothers DayTo You
Happy Mothers Day to you, Mom in law,
A part of our family, you will always be.
We know we can always count on you
Thanks for the encouragement and all you do.
The love and support you always show
In our books, you’re a hero.
We recognize you this Mother’s Day.
We love you in every way!!
– Kate Summers
Thanks To A Great Mother
Hey mother-in-law,
I am grateful from the bottom of my heart,
You gave me a precious gift like your son,
I am grateful you accepted me so beautifully in your world,
I feel like home in your home,
I feel like a daughter in your home,
And, that’s all because of you,
Keep being the heart of our home,
It makes us feel light
It gives us delight
– Unknown
Thank You Poems For Mother-in-law
Through some beautiful and meaningful lines, tell your mother-in-law how grateful you are to her for inspiring you and guiding you, and express your thankfulness to her.
More Than A Mother-In-Law
Your kindness has inspired me in more ways than one.
The time we shared meant so much to me, and I had a lot of fun.
You taught me the true meaning of a mother’s love.
You reminded me when I was in doubt to look up above.
Your strength is amazing through this hard time.
You’re more than a mother-in-law; you’re a best friend of mine.
Dedicated to Debbie Buckley
– Jamie M. Buckley
My Dearest Mother-in-law
My dearest mother-in-law, this one is for you.
Thank you for your love and all that you do.
The stories I heard about "In-laws," you know,
does not apply at all, to you though.
You made me feel welcome right from the start.
Because of your wisdom, I think you’re so smart.
You’re classy and stylish and friendly too,
you make us smile when we feel blue..
Our children always think of you as the best,
NO one can compare, not one of the rest.
I want to thank you today for a gift so rare,
Your son you shared with me, it means that you care.
In this whole world, I will never find,
a Mother-in-law so precious and kind.
So my dearest mother-in-law I just wanted you to know,
I’ll always appreciate you and love you so!
– Lynette
A Mother-in-law
When I got married, I didn’t think
A Mom, I would also gain
But now I see that smile and wink
I could never complain.
You are loving, kind, and supportive of
The many things we do.
All we do and all we love
You are included too.
By marriage, you become my Mom.
I am grateful for that day.
We could all use another Mom.
I wouldn’t have it any other way.
– Catherine Pulsifer
You are truly the one
You are truly my second mother, you know
I may not tell you, or I may not show
With time, my bond is getting strong
With time, my trust is getting so deep
I think my deeds are so good
So I am so getting the reap
The fruits of my deeds by having you
Yes, you are truly one in few
The best mom in law anyone can have
You are the best in every way
I love you, dear mother-in-law
Stay blessed!
– Unknown
Star Mother-In-Law
Some mother-in-laws are possessive;
Their child they still want to own.
My mother-in-law’s love is like sunlight;
On both of us it shone.
Some mother-in-laws put you down;
They think you’re not good enough.
My mother-in-law shows approval,
Affection, and other good stuff.
Some mother-in-laws interfere;
They think that they know best.
My mother-in-law lets us be;
She’s better than the rest.
And so I just want to thank you
For being who you are;
You’ve made everything so easy;
As a mother-in-law, you’re a star!
– Joanna Fuchs
Mother-in-laws Are Said To Be
Mother-in-laws are said to be
Nasty, mean, and interfering
Some say they even so contrary
All that was said was truly overwhelming.
But you, my dear, are not like that
You are special and thoughtful too
Easy to sit and have a chat
We love you and thank you for all you do.
– Catherine Pulsifer
Sometimes, we may not find appropriate words to say our feelings out loud. One of the greatest ways to express your emotions to a loved one is by penning down a few lines. It may either be a quote or a poem. Let your mother-in-law know how she became your loving second mother, how she guided you, the way she stood beside you silently, giving strength. Share a few verses with her and see how happy and special she feels.
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